Add video chat quickly
My husband asked if we could Skype a few weeks after our first connection. I resisted because I wanted to look absolutely perfect, and at the time, video chat seemed awkward. Can we just keep texting so I don't have to wear makeup? But he perseveres, and I respect him. He wanted to make sure that the person behind the screen was the girl in the photo. In addition, video chatting is a good way to find out if there is potential chemistry between two people.
In this day and age, video chat is very, very easy. There are so many ways to make it happen, so if someone resists (like me), be skeptical. As one complicated article cites 10 rules of online BBW dating: "if your love interest says no, you realize something is terribly wrong."
If you share common goals and priorities, find out
No, you don't have to rush. Start by asking the person how many children they want, or whether they prefer a spring or fall wedding. It's okay to start with casual conversation, but be smart and make sure the other person wants and values what you're doing.
For example, I know that I want people who have the same spiritual beliefs as me, so when it is obvious that a person does not share, I cut things. (I'm not saying the two parties have to share the same religious beliefs, but that's a priority for me.)
If family relationships and support are important to you, it may not be a good idea to hang out with people who don't have a good curvy dating relationship with their family or have no connection with them.
If someone's values are at odds with yours, there are simple ways to spot them quickly. Be sure to look at their profile and see what useful information they put there. More importantly, you can simply ask the person what they want in a chubby dating partner. If they think it's rude or ask a different question than you do, they probably don't want a serious BBW hookup relationship.
Follow your heart and don't be afraid to miss it
There is a tendency, especially among women, to agree to date someone they don't really feel for because they fear they might be their soul mate and because they have a "FOMO" (fear of missing out).
Here's the problem. If that person is the one, life will bring him back. I know it sounds corny, but it's the healthiest attitude for BBW dating and life.
When I saw my husband living 500 miles away, I initially ignored his first message. But a few days later, for whatever reason, my instinct told me to look at his profile, and I did, which piqued my interest.
If your gut tells you that someone isn't right for you, don't doubt yourself. Keep going.
Avoid tall fish
If someone is interested in you, you'll know. They respond. They ask questions. They give you priority. If they keep you guessing and make you seem unreliable, politely let your life be free of their eccentricities.
In short, online curvy dating is just another way to connect with Mr. Or Ms. Right. It's still entirely possible to meet your soul mate the old-fashioned way, so live gracefully and strive to be the best version of yourself so that when that special someone comes along, you're ready.